An Asian Queer Story: Coming Out to Dead People – Assembly Roxy

Ricky Sim is a gifted storyteller. He talks beautifully about the complexities of coming out as gay to his Malaysian family, and his grief following the death of his beloved mother. He also tells a lot of dick jokes.

Sim engages energetically with the crowd as he introduces us to the intricacies of “Gaysian” culture and the accompanying slang. Do you know why Sim decided not to major in computer science? Go to his show and you will find out.

Just when Sim was preparing to come out to his mom, she was diagnosed with terminal cancer. He was afraid that he might break her heart. He wished that there was a gay Asian role model he could point to, so that she would know he could be happy. Sim fills our hearts with memories and little details about his mother. Years after her passing, we feel his sadness, and we reacquaint ourselves with our own. After all, if you have ever lost someone, you know that grief can pop up unexpectedly – like a boner.

Sim talks about the Chinese concept of filial piety, which requires people to make huge sacrifices for their parents. He also knows that visible, proud gay role models can make a huge difference to those who are struggling to accept their sexuality. This piece of theatre celebrates both aspects of Sim’s identity. I think his mom would be proud.

Reviewer: Wendy McEwan

Reviewed: 10^th August 2024

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